Distractions: Good, bad, or otherwise.

What up, my peeps! I am so happy to be a part of this community with you. Thank you all for the emails, the praise reports, the feedback…I really appreciate each and every one of you.

This past couple of weeks has been interesting. I made a decision a few weeks ago and God has really confirmed it. What it ultimately boiled down to was,  I was DISTRACTED. And not just with bad things, but even some of the good things I had going on were a distraction to my purpose.

A friend of mine and one of my former Life Coach’s, Rachel L. Proctor, wrote a book called ‘My Best Year Ever’. If you follow me on Facebook, I recently used one of the quotes from her book. Y’all. I read the book in two weeks. I know that sounds like a long time, but I have books that I started in January and haven’t finished yet. So this was a sprint read. The book was really confirmation for me. I was in a place of stuck and it really helped me shake some things off and get back to what I know I am called to do.

What her book did for me is exactly why it’s so important for you to do the very thing God has called you to do. Her obedience allowed me to have the breakthrough I needed in this season. It was the kick in the butt that I needed to remove some distractions, get over myself and keep pressing forward.

What distractions are in the way of you moving forward? Again, not all distractions are bad ones. It’s just not the season for them. Earlier in the year, I stopped coaching at a gym because it was a distraction. And by the end of every day I was too tired to do anything God had planted in me to do. I still workout at that gym because it’s an amazing place, but I had to transition from being a coach to back to being a member. Shortly after I left there I was given an opportunity to coach somewhere else making more money and spending less time. I have no regrets!

And now I’m at a point where nothing will keep me from my destiny. And honestly, the only thing holding me back was me. And how I managed my time and how I “lost” my faith when things got a little shaky.

Two things I want you to take away from this email:

  1. Let go of the distractions. Yep. That very thing that came to mind, yep, that one.
  2. Be obedient. Someone like me needs what God has planted in you. Who knows what I would be doing had I not had Rachel’s book to read. I bought the book months ago, but just recently picked it up. It was divine timing.

Letting go is not easy. But neither is living with the feeling of knowing you should be doing other things. Whatever you know you’re not called to do in THIS season let it go. Pray for the courage to do so. Now is not the time to hold back. Now is not the time to hold hostage someone’s breakthrough. And as a bonus, I heard this song some time ago while visiting DC. My uncle and I were on the way to church and this song came on. I’d forgotten about it until recently. And honestly, I can’t even remember how. Other than DIVINE TIMING. Check it out! 

Go be GREAT,

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Something good for something GREATER II!


(Picture courtesy of Facebook feed)

This illustration has been floating around Facebook and every time I see it I can think of a time when I was holding on to something or someone so tight that I did not want to let go. The longer we hold on to what we want, we risk the chances of missing out on  the “bigger” that God has for us. I realize part of not letting go is the fear of the unknown. We want to know exactly what we are getting in return. We even hold on to things we know are not in our best interests because that’s better than nothing, right. WRONG. I personally suffered from keeping the wrong people in my life. It’s hard to let go of the people you want to stay. You begin to justify the relationship. I knew a woman who was so negative…to the point that after talking to her, I was mentally drained. After years of the same thing, I finally had to get to a point where I had to let go. I tried so hard to just get her to “get it”, but she was in a position that she would not. By the same token, I have also been the negative person that someone had to let go of.

There is the uncertainty of what comes next, who comes next. I’ve stayed in toxic relationships; defending them with the “this could be our testimony”. There was a testimony in it, but a much different one than I’d planned. I have dreams and aspirations of my own, but God could, at any moment, move me in a different direction. It’s imperative that we are in tune with His voice so we will know when to hold on and when to let go. He desires to take us to the next level, but He can’t if we get too comfortable where we are. We also have to understand that we the things, plans, or people God is moving us away from are not always bad for us, but that He has a greater plan for us.

So TODAY, let go of the need to always be right. Let go of always wanting things to go exactly as you want them. Let go of the need to do things “at just the right” time. Letting go of the need to have it ALL figured out.  Let go of the person who always tears you down. Don’t extend the length of the season God is moving you out of.  Let go so you don’t miss opportunities as they are presented. Let go so you can recognize the person God has intended for you…never be so afraid to let go of something good for something greater.

Stay Charmed,


Don’t be a worry wart!

Letting go does not always mean giving up. In just a few short months, I am learning what it really means to trust God. Trusting him requires faith. It also brings about a certain peace that is indescribable. I don’t have to toss and turn all night worrying about a situation nor do I have to have it all figured out. Letting go simply means giving God full control even over the things that you can. I was speaking with a friend the other day and he asked me what does God control, and I stupidly said, everything that I can’t. Knowing full well He controls it ALL, but the words didn’t quite come out right. Even the things that I can do, in the natural, are spirit led.

I read an article yesterday titled, ‘Overcoming Worry: God is in Control’. There were statements within the article that you had to check if you could relate. There were a few that I checked, one being “When someone is distant, I’m constantly concerned about what I might have done wrong”. I had this experience just a few weekends ago.  I knew full well that I had done nothing wrong,  but I allowed certain thoughts to consume me. I worried and prayed about it all weekend long. One of the questions in this article was, Is it possible to worry and still believe that God is fully in control? My answer is, of course not. When I lay my requests at the altar there is no need for me to pick them up again. Me and God can’t both be working on the same problem. In that instance, I’m sure he just sits back and watches me make a bigger mess of things.

Letting go is a sign of strength. It means that no matter the outcome, whatever God decides,  it will be in my best interest. Letting go does not mean putting off what you can do for yourself. Faith without works is still dead, but it is your way of saying to God, “Lord, this matter is out of my control. I cannot control people, certain situations, nor do I choose to. Let your will be done.”

So, I challenge you not to be a worry wart. If you have asked God to handle something, step aside and watch him work.

Stay Charmed,