“Are you the person who you are looking for is looking for?”
– Andy Stanley, North Point Church
What a loaded question, and as much as we would all like to say yes, it’s evident that many of us are not. I’m single, and I don’t claim to want a man who has it all together, but I am guilty of wanting a man who does not bring out my crazy. Sometimes instead of becoming better people, we want the person to never force us to whip out our ugly side. For the past two years, I’ve had a friend that I never really let in. I could give many reasons why I didn’t, but it all boils down to I was not the person he was looking for. I know many that know me will disagree, but when it comes to relationships with the opposite sex, well, they can be quite tricky. He was not without flaws, but instead of stepping out on faith I chose to let fear hinder me from getting to really know someone great. That’s a hard lesson to learn.
But that relationship or the demise of it birthed this blog. It is something that I enjoy, can reach someone else who may have the same struggles, and helps me with a much bigger dream of mine. That relationship has also taught me to never let go of God. To never walk in fear. Through it all, we both learned valuable lessons about each other, ourselves, and what we look for in other people. I am not getting any younger, and I do desire my own husband, and kids, but above all, I aim to please the one man who I’ve never been able to push away, has never walked away, who has never mistreated me, so on and so forth.
We do not have to learn the lesson from personal experience. You can learn from my mistakes. Let go of fear, let people in, ask God about everything, every decision. You don’t have to learn the lesson the hard way. Start now by becoming the person who you are looking for is looking for.
2 thoughts on “All the Single Ladies! And men.”
Ironically I heard Mr. Kappa…Lambda Nu 😉 co-signed a statement said on the reunion of “Love & Hip Hop” — of all places. The guy on the show said something to the effect of if you’re not there through thick, I don’t want you at thin.
The Mr. You Didn’t Let In sounded too much like a Fair-Weathered Friend! Even if you were still wounded & difficult to get close to, if he thought you were all that AND since you are all that, he should’ve done the work. I have the greatest respect in my life for those few guys who stuck with me even when I was seemingly pushing them away. Peter said after you’ve suffered for a while, God will make you strong. Mr. Fair-Weathered Friend wanted the strength of the highest position in your life without having to suffer. In my opinion, your best is still yet to come!
Well Amen! I receive!