Something good for something GREATER.

IMG_3742As a new year rapidly approaches, what things, habits, even people do you need to leave in 2013? Trust me, I dare not claim to be an expert on letting go. It is not an easy feat. To some it means someone doesn’t think enough of them to keep them around. Let’s stay here for a minute.

I’ve been reading a great book titled, ‘Sun Stand Still‘. Recently, I read where the author writes regarding a certain character in the book, “Now he realizes that when God removes something from our lives, it’s not because he’s trying to take away something good. It’s because he’s trying to make room for something better”. He also writes, “When God takes something or someone out of your life, he’s just clearing space on your hard drive for an upgrade”. The hard part about this is determining who needs the upgrade? You or the other person? I suppose both. Don’t get me wrong some people are toxic and it’s a no brainer, but some relationships have a season and a reason, and hopefully a learned lesson. Don’t miss the lesson.

Moving forward. What are some other things that need to be removed in the new year? Some bad habits such as, biting your nails, picking your lips (a family fave), spending too much money, creating too much debt, eating way too many carbs…or what if you feel the need to let go of a dream, a goal?

I will share something very personal. I have struggled with trusting God’s plan for my  life. I like to be in control of things. But let me assure you, whatever it is you are being called to let go of, rip off the band-aid, drop it, do whatever you have to do to rid yourself of it and keep it moving. Don’t keep going back hoping to get further with it this time around. Or as my best friend Robyn says, “stop looking into the rearview mirror of life”. Keep the door closed. You’d be surprised how fast you will be able to get over someone, save more money with each disciplined step, or be in tune with what God has really planned for your life. Letting go opens doors to new opportunities, as well as some new challenges, but oh, how exciting it will be. Let it go!

Stay Charmed,


2014: What’s your vision?

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Last year, a few friends and I got together to create our very first Vision Boards. I’d recently seen a fellow TCU alum, Marshawn Evans, on Good Morning Texas, talking about them and what they mean. In the video, (link posted below), Marshawn mentioned that a vision board begs the question, what do you want to become? So my friends and I got together and ventured into creating our own boards. As I look back on my 2013 Vision Board, I can see where I missed the mark, and also, where I accomplished some parts of my vision. In 2014, I decided to go bold. Very bold. In itself, a vision or two many be out of my control, but I added it because I have to be open to it. For example, love. If you want it, be open and available for the right kind of love.  But other things like, be amazing, well, in the words of Beyonce, “I woke up like dis”, and yet, at times we forget just how amazing we really are.  So add it and lots of other self-esteem boosters to remind you that you were created to be awesome. 

So get some friends together, gather up some old magazines, and get to vision boarding! It’s really quite fun and a great time to fellowship with your peeps and have some good laughs. Besides, your friends can hold you accountable throughout the course of the year. Once complete, keep the board where you can see it and be reminded of what you want to become in 2014.

And if you’re feeling brave, do share on my Facebook page, charmainecharming.  You never know who you might inspire. Special shoutout to Stacy, Amaya, Rose, and Melissa for letting me share their 2014 vision boards with you.

Start 2013 off on the right foot by making a Vision Board

Below is an article from for further assistance.

How to make a Vision Board

Stay Charmed,


Who’s up for a challenge?

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So, my sister, Stacey, sent a text message asking, “who’s up for a challenge?” And of course, we all responded with “I’m in”.  I’ve now seen the chart floating around on various social media, blogs, websites, etc. Saying yes was the easy part; the real challenge starts Monday when we have to make our first deposit. The tougher challenge may come throughout the year as the amounts grow higher, relatively, the hustle and bustle of everyday living, and the costs of everything else we have going on, etc. But don’t be discouraged. Start now. Deposit more when able, but don’t give up. $1,378 may not be a lot, but the timing would be perfect for Christmas shopping, paying down some debt, or taking that holiday getaway.  Or if you’re like me, the money could go towards dues for every organization you’re involved in.

So, who’s with us? The way it works is to save $1 per week, and increase in $1 increments per week. If you feel working your way backwards will be better for you, go for it. Happy Saving! If you’re feeling brave, check out the 52-week challenge on steroids. I found this on the ‘goldieandoshow’ blog (for the chart click on the link below).

Stay Charmed,


Ready. Set. Wait?

bookclock-coloredWhat, wait? In a world of instant gratification, who wants to wait? I know I certainly don’t, but when hitting “send” can dramatically change your entire life, for better or for worser (I know), waiting may not be such a terrible idea. What does it mean to wait? Merriam Webster defines wait as “to stay in place until an expected event happens, until someone arrives, until it is your turn to do something”, and my personal favorite, “to remain stationary in readiness and expectation”. So why, do we as a society, fear waiting? Nowhere does it imply don’t, can’t, or won’t happen if we insert a little patience. There is something to be said and done in the waiting process. Waiting says, it is not time to jump right now. Maybe I need to do a little more research, maybe I am not ready to move on to the next relationship, maybe the world isn’t ready for what I have to offer. In the waiting, I can prepare myself for what it is to come. The market may shift and there is a greater need for what it is that I have. Waiting is not passive. One does not sit around and wait for things to fall into place. If I am unemployed, job applications do not fill themselves out. Don’t waste time being inactive while you wait. Get busy. The bible says in Isaiah 40:31, But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint. Get renewed. Run when it’s time to run and slow it down when it’s time to walk. Trust that things are working out while you wait. Don’t be so anxious to do something, to hit “send, post or comment”, or to pursue. Wait.  Do your due diligence and when the time is right, pounce. There is a time and place for everything. So while we are all making our New Year’s resolutions, be reminded that while it may not have taken you 4 months to gain 10 lbs, it may take 4 to lose it. A relationship that took a text message to ruin, may take months to repair. Time is key to a lot of things, but time alone won’t get us where we need to be. Get busy while you wait!

Stay Charmed,