The C.H.A.R.M.E.D. Alliance

Single Status & so much more…

The season you’re in!

Today will be a wonderful Wednesday if I do say so myself. “Self, it will be a wonderful Wednesday!!!” If you have not figured it out by now, I am the funniest person I know.

I want to take a moment to apologize for the cadence of these emails. What cadence, Tam? Exactly, but I promise there will be one as soon as I decide which day is best to send the newsletter. Quite honestly, I still have a full-time job, a new one at that and month end close was here before I knew it. Yikes! But I will figure it out and pick a day any day. If you would like to weigh in, please do so at I love hearing from you guys!

I am so excited about today’s newsletter because it truly took me 4+ever to allow this message to sink in. The title speaks for itself so married folk keep reading. The ‘so much more’ applies to you. But I first want to address those that when asked if married or single they check… single.

Define single. Certainly! As my sister, Tycie, says, if you ain’t married, you’re single. So, listen up. 1 Corinthians 7.34 tells us that as an unmarried person we should be concerned about the Lord’s affairs. In other words, our purpose, in this season, is to be devoted to the Lord in both body & spirit. Here is the complete scripture so I don’t lose anyone. “An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world–how she can please her husband.”

 day is this Saturday and many will actually hope for a day with less than 24-hours. But I am here to tell you that February 14th is just another day. There is absolutely nothing wrong with celebrating it. However, I don’t want you to settle for the guy who hasn’t programmed your number into his phone, or the one that conveniently (for him) only has time in the wee hours of the morning to spend time with you.

In this season of my life, I have accepted God’s calling to bring scripture to life using my personality, experiences, and etcetera. I read this verse some time ago and this post was birthed. I was finally in position to receive what God was telling me. How often had I made finding my husband a priority? Finding love is beautiful, but how often do people “find” it at the risk of their purpose in life? Just ask some of the married couples you know if they wish they had waited until they got their Master’s, started a business, or traveled the world before getting married. I am not knocking marriage. I am knocking putting that desire above God and His purpose for your life.

Your single season is meant to be chasing after the things of God not some man or a desire to tie the knot. God knows the desires of your heart and He desires to fulfill them. I encourage you not to waste this time wishing and hoping things were different. I encourage you to use this time to start a business, travel the world, start a ministry, or volunteer as often as you want. There will be a day when you will have to ask the “permission” of someone else to do these things and their answer might be NO. Whatever God is calling you to do NOW while you are not “boo’d up’ please pursue it. He might be calling you to quit your job (try doing that with a spouse, let alone little mouths to feed). Not impossible, but perhaps a little harder to do once married.

For those who are married and feel like marriage and/or motherhood is not all God has called you to be, ask Him what more He has purposed for your life. I dare not give marital advice, but I do encourage you to acknowledge that tug that is pushing you to do more. If your marriage is in need of restoration, I encourage you to make that request known until our Heavenly Father. If you desire more affection from your spouse, ask God to do a work in you. Either single or married, be the person you are looking for or asking God for is looking for. God cares about every nook and cranny of your life. We can’t change the hearts of others, but we can certainly ask God to change ours. He will transform you from head to toe.

In a nutshell, single people, pursue God and your purpose. Be open to love and patiently wait for your purpose partner. Married people if God is not the center of your marriage, I pray that today be the day you surrender your covenant unto Him.

Happy love day! Each and every day. I love you all!

P.S. If you know someone who could benefit from this particular topic or our community overall, please share.

Stay Charmed,


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